Custody and access schedules in Ireland: a 2026 guide

Reviewed 18 July 2026 · Ireland · general information, not legal advice

In Ireland, most separated parents work out where the children live and when they see each parent through what is often called custody and access. Many families agree this between themselves, or with the help of mediation, without needing a court order. A clear, written schedule that both parents can see helps everyone, and it gives the children a routine they can count on.

Common schedule patterns

There is no single right answer. The best schedule is the one that fits the children's ages, school and activities, and how close the two homes are.

A parenting-plan template you can copy

Copy the outline below into a document or into ParenThing, fill it in together, and keep it somewhere you can both see it. It is not a legal document, but writing things down prevents a lot of misunderstandings.

1. The children

Names and dates of birth.

2. Living arrangements

Where the children live day to day, and each parent's address.

3. The regular schedule

Which nights the children spend with each parent (for example, alternate weekends, or week on week off).

4. Handovers

Where and when handovers happen, and who does drop-off and collection.

5. Holidays and special days

How school holidays, mid-terms, birthdays, and days like Christmas are shared each year.

6. Communication

How the children keep in touch with the other parent, and how the two of you will communicate about them.

7. Decisions

How you will make bigger decisions together, such as school, health and travel.

8. Expenses

How shared costs are split and recorded.

9. Review

When you will review the plan (for example, every six or twelve months) as the children grow.

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This page is general information, not legal advice. A parenting plan is not a court order. For advice on custody, access or guardianship in your situation, contact a solicitor, the Legal Aid Board, or Citizens Information.